Christmas at the Holloway house included a fairly intense crying / yelling match. Emily sat on the potty with a puddle of ballet clothes at her ankles, shouting with all her might, "I am NOT going to go potty!" The baby started crying because it's sooooo easy to sleep when there's yelling going on in the next room. I threw a wad of toilet paper at my daughter (not kidding) and yelled, "Emily! Go potty!!" Jason came to the door and gave me a look that said, "What in the H is going on in here?!" I stormed out in tears and locked myself in our bathroom.
It's a Norman Rockwell image, is it not?
Let's rewind.... Christmas morning actually began very smoothly. We did all of the things parents are supposed to do (half-eaten cookies left on the plate, stockings overflowing, etc.) and opened presents together as a family while holiday tunes played in the background. Jacob even stayed awake for about 10 minutes of it before needing to go down for his morning nap. Then it was time to rush out the door for my last steroid infusion. Boo.
I did this one solo. I didn't want my mom to have to watch her daughter hooked up to an IV for 2 hours on Christmas. I wanted our kids to be with Daddy if they couldn't be with me. And I knew my all-time favorite nurse, Phyllis would be there to make me feel better. What I hadn't anticipated was a scary allergic reaction that had me tomato-red from head to toe and itching. Everywhere. The sweetest old men were in the infusion room with me. I went into a crazy-lady-itching-frenzy and one of them said, "I still think you're pretty even when your scalp itches." Gross! My head is actually sore today from the frantic brushing I resorted to. They shut off the steroids and monitored me until my color returned to normal. I walked shakily to my car and pouted for a few minutes before starting the engine. No more steroids. A wave of happy/sad/relieved/resentful feelings washed over me. I know that I'm supposed to trust God's plan for me, but that doesn't mean I necessarily have to like it all of the time. In fact, this week I've been more than a little angry with Him. I need to be angry. I get the feeling He understands.
I walked in the door to find Emily refusing to sit down for lunch. Fine. You need to use the potty first anyway. Fast forward to our ultimate potty power struggle. Happy, happy Christmas! I cried in the shower while doing some more crazy-lady-scalp-scratching, spent some time thinking about how to fix the mess I had made then called for my little girl.
"Emily, I owe you an apology. Mommy had a bad morning at the hospital and it made me cranky. I shouldn't have yelled at you."
"You kind of had a temper tantrum. That was really rude."
Deep breath... Ignore the sassy-pants tone and stick with the apology plan. "Yes, It was. I'm sorry."
Emily then climbed into my lap, kissed my cheek, jumped down and danced away. Just like that, everything was OK again. If Emily can forgive me for losing it on Christmas, I suppose I can forgive God for this week. I can learn a lot from my little girl.